American journalist Alicia Gary knows from personal experience how uncomfortable the friends and relatives of the patient feel - last year she herself fell ill with cancer. Thankfully, Alicia was cured, and now those with whom she does not communicate very closely - sellers in local stores and some neighbors - think that she lost weight due to the fact that she was just very nervous. And they say out loud that the new short haircut suits her very well.

“No one will deliberately say something unpleasant to a person who has been diagnosed with cancer,” says Alicia. “But sometimes the words just fly out, and it can be hard to stop them. I heard a lot of the strangest remarks. But it is not all that bad. For the most part, encouraging things were said to me, and the wishes were the warmest. However, it's amazing how bad things can hurt in such dark times.

Support is hard to overestimate. But how to evaluate it? In what sense? Words? Actions? Present? Smile? How do you support those who are facing a serious illness?

In a world where yellow news is the most delicious information, many do not know how to show a person their love, how to express how much they care. But what if you do not belong to the circle of loved ones, if just an acquaintance fell ill? When you hear the news that someone you know is battling cancer, it can change your life. Perhaps you will learn some lesson for yourself. A cancer patient will certainly take it out. Each new day becomes another mountain that must be conquered by all means.

Most people in this situation just want to know what they can do. And it never hurts to accept help, even if you are Miss "I-do-it-yourself." In the first days after surgery, I made a conscious effort to watch comedies, listen to my favorite music, and read books that I have long wanted to read. Feeding the soul is so important! And the ability to keep the brain in good shape and distracted works wonders.

I also listened to a lot of comments, sometimes at the moments when I least expected them, and made a list of what not to say, and what can be both said and done.

Here is a list of taboo phrases that you should never say to a person with cancer:

- "Don't be upset - maybe not all your hair will fall out."

“Do you really have to wear that wig all the time, even at home? Are you not hot in it?

- "After I had a mastectomy, I threw up all the time."

“After chemotherapy, even my vellus hair fell out.”

- "So you can't eat sweets now?"

"You shouldn't be using antiperspirants."

“You probably wake up every day and think, they say, what a nightmare.”

- "You feel just awful, don't you?"

“I was shocked when I found out about everything.”

"If that happened to me, I wouldn't wear a wig."

Here is what you can and should say and do:

Send a gift box to the sick person. There should be no spices and fat, but a healthy homemade soup will come in handy;

Pass a card with a funny or philosophical phrase. I have received many such messages and cherish them very much;

Discuss with the patient someone who has been cured of cancer for at least five years and is doing well;

Compliment clothing or jewelry;

Tell the person that you think about him every day and send him your positive;

Call often, and if possible, visit the patient. When a person feels bad and scared, there is no better distraction than reading sms from a friend or talking to him;

Tell the patient something funny or recommend a good comedy;

Pray for him and tell him that you will continue to do so.

Sometimes a sick person does not even know what he needs or what he wants. And it is very difficult for his family and friends to feel their helplessness. If you accidentally burst out something that is not suitable for the moment, apologize, and next time think carefully about your words and try to improve. Even in this situation, you can stay positive. It is not necessary to talk about the disease itself - let the person feel your love. You can just listen to it. Offer entertainment. If he refuses, do not despair: in any case, your good impulse is appreciated. You can give the sick strength to live. And this gift is worth it.

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And another positive example - my friend with 2 children got cancer, after the operation her husband left her and she was left alone with two children on a disability pension. Since then, 10 years have passed, she is alive and well, the children have grown up, and she is married to another person (very rich and wealthy). So everything might be fine.

But most importantly, I beg and conjure you, do not bury a person, you don’t even have to think that he will die, firstly, a person feels your mood and doom, and secondly, thought is material.

With their compassionate behavior, but tuned to the death of a person, people admire themselves, and do not help the sick! “It hurts you, but you hold on, you are obliged to brighten up the last days of a dying person” - these are usually the words everyone says. It's self-pity, that's all. The man is not dead - he is alive, he is fighting - help him fight and do not read him "funeral" speeches during his lifetime.

How to support a cancer patient

In such a difficult situation, when a person has such a terrible diagnosis as cancer, it is difficult to advise anything. The patient's family is in shock, hardly understanding what and how to do.

In the West, many questions of the patient and his relatives are answered by an oncopsychologist. In our clinics, unfortunately, this position is not even provided for in the staffing table. That is why the AICM International Charitable Foundation, with the support of the Development of Ukraine Charitable Foundation, has issued advice for such difficult situations.

All tips are maximally adapted to Ukrainian realities, because Ukrainian specialists took part in the creation of the brochure: oncologist of the highest category Konstantin Yarynych and psychologist Volodymyr Tarasov.

What kind of support is waiting for a sick person

A person who suddenly finds himself in the face of a terrible disease expects support from his loved ones, first of all, because victory over the disease is impossible without self-confidence and fortitude.

A cancer patient expects support from close people during treatment, during consultations with a doctor. Because the patient is sometimes confused and cannot ask the right questions to the doctor. A loved one can help with this. In addition, a loved one will help you understand medical terms, choose the right treatment and help you get through it.

What not to say to a cancer patient

A cancer patient needs to be listened to and reassured. But he should not be told that the disease is temporary and will pass quickly, you cannot simplify the situation, because in this way he will get the feeling that the situation is not serious and does not require special attention. Or a sick person will perceive these words as a manifestation of indifference.

It is impossible in a conversation with a cancer patient to share your fears and feelings associated with his illness. In no case should you cry in the presence of the patient, on the contrary, he needs to show confidence in the future day.

A sick person should not be given statistics related to the disease, even if they seem optimistic. After all, a cancer patient may perceive them quite differently, and will see a half-empty glass in front of him rather than half-full.

It is impossible in a conversation with a patient to compare the diseases of different people, even if the diagnosis is similar. Only a doctor can make such comparisons with a certain probability, since cancers can have distinctive characteristics even under similar conditions.

What is important for a cancer patient in everyday life

Especially important for a cancer patient is the constant presence of a loved one nearby, his attention and touch, understanding and support during treatment. Do not hide your feelings from a sick person and claim that your life has not changed.

We need to honestly say: “Yes, we have difficulties today, but together we will overcome them.” It is necessary to show a person that you understand his fear of treatment, illness, death, and empathize with him. Although the words "death", "relapse", "cancer" should be avoided in direct communication. Do not let the patient withdraw into himself, although treat him with understanding if he wants to be alone for some time.

Don't tell a person with cancer, "Call me if you need anything." Better say: "Today I will be free, let me come in and we will decide what we can do together."

It is especially important that the daily life of the patient does not change dramatically, so that the role of a person in the family remains the same. A person with cancer should participate in family life, go to work if possible, they should, as before, be consulted and solve problems.

But at the same time, it is necessary to understand that specific treatment causes not only general poor health in a cancer patient, but also sudden mood swings, up to aggression or alienation, a desire to retire and not communicate with anyone. All this must be understood and accepted, patiently hoping only for the best.

It is impossible to avoid talking about well-being and pain, on the contrary, the patient should be able to speak out, discuss his condition and ask for help. Instead of asking, “Is everything okay?” it is better to ask: "How do you feel?"

In communicating with a cancer patient, it is very important to maintain contact and trust, communication should take place on an equal footing, without obvious playing along.

All these tips and many useful recommendations can be found in the brochure "If a person close to you was diagnosed with cancer?", which was recently released by the international charitable foundation AICM with the support of the charitable foundation "Development of Ukraine".

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In dealing with a cancer patient, the most important thing is to tell him the whole truth. You need to tell him that any treatment does not lead to a cure for diseases. It is necessary to look for the causes of diseases and eliminate them from the life of a sick person. Otherwise, you can’t cope with diseases! See for yourself, is it possible to cure this with medicines?

What do you think is the most important thing in communicating with a cancer patient?

Answer: Give him warmth, support and feel that he has not nearly become less valuable or, on the contrary, has not become flawed, but life goes on. Yes, it is now. But we are together!

How do you know what is the worst thing in dealing with a cancerous person?

Answer: There is little hope for the future (Ob.21:3.4; IV.5:28.29), as well as the love and trouble of loved ones.

What do you think is the most important thing in communicating with a cancer patient?

Answer: Trust and love

We have a difficult situation. My mother-in-law had her breast removed 10 years ago, cancer, 2 years ago she was diagnosed with rectal cancer. Operated. What hell she suffered I will not describe. And now there is another relapse. She is broken, the once strong, determined woman does not want to fight. I don’t know how to support, what to say, what to answer her questions “why, I want to live like that.” I know it's God's will.

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What do you think is the most important thing in communicating with a cancer patient?

Answer: let the patient know that his illness is a temporary phenomenon, that his position in the family, at work, in society has not changed for the worse.

It is necessary to systematically be treated and strive for the treatment process, as a favorite pastime, a hobby. He is still loved, appreciated and waiting for recovery together. He participates in the future plans of loved ones, only you need to wait a bit, get stronger and again actively live and work together. I believe that a person will find the strength to take his place, which is prophesied to him by loving and respectful relatives and friends. After suffering, renewal, those who fill their hearts with love and gratitude will live happily. Both the sick and the healthy.

What do you think is the most important thing in communicating with a cancer patient?

Answer: My mother has uterine cancer. She is hysterical and very afraid, although she has only the first stage, but this can be understood, because she is a person of Soviet hardening, and such a diagnosis, in her understanding, is execution. Also doctors. but that's another comedy. different people walk the earth. Personally, I try to let her know that life is life and sometimes it’s very hard, but I’m there, and my friends are also there, and the sun has not become darker, but we are together, we will overcome all this, we will pass , we will endure and we will live, we will live for evil to all enemies)))

Not to support - but to return. It is your duty to open your eyes to the lies of medicine on the causes and cures of cancer. Today it is carefully concealed that CANCER is not a disease. This is a banal contamination of the body primarily due to denatured food. Secondly, a damaging factor can accelerate cancer - chemical poisoning, radiation, radioelectronic exposure, etc. This is best proven by banal statistics, by country, region of residence. The fact is that in impoverished India - in rural areas, the poor people who eat what they grow up and cannot buy food in stores - almost do not get sick. But he gets sick (and cancer too) when he moves to the city.

Hiromi Shinya, Boris Uvaydov and others successfully cure cancer - with banal dietary recommendations. YES! The food that nourishes us can also protect us. The fact is that according to statistics, the life expectancy of Chernobyl self-settlers is higher than the average for Russia. In Chernobyl, in the restricted area! They eat what they grow. Open your eyes to

My friend is 35 years old, she is not married, she has no children, she is a careerist. her breast was removed, how can I support her, what are the right words to find, because the disease is serious, and life is still ahead.

For a woman, not a beautiful breast or its absence is a tragedy. Remind your friend that in addition to the body, the soul lives inside Us. It is the beauty and fortitude that attracts others. Especially men. If there were children, their health and development would be the most important thing in life. Their success, love and tenderness pleases and makes a woman happy. Everything will pass when she finds a person who loves her. For whom she will be the most beautiful woman in the world.

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The seven most stupid phrases that their loved ones say to the sick

If your friend or relative is seriously ill, how to communicate with him without falling into false cheerfulness or lisping?

Letty Kottin Pogrebin's book "Trial by Illness - How to Communicate, Maintain Relationships and Help a Loved One" was published by Livebooks with the support of the Happy World Charitable Foundation. The idea to write a book "about friendship and illness" came to the author in the queue to the oncologist.

Need special words

Imagine that you accidentally meet an old friend.

You know, I got cancer.

Who among us could adequately continue such a conversation? How to support and console a person without falling into mock cheerfulness, into lisping, without fencing off a friend with a protective mask of kindness or indifference?

It's easy to show affection at a meal together, but when your friend or relative is sick, special words are needed to keep the relationship warm. This book is about them.

At the oncologist's waiting room

Despite the difficult topics that the author touches on, reading The Trial by Illness is fascinating, it is both a reference book and an autobiographical story. Author Letty Kottin Pogrebin, a journalist and writer, describes the events that begin in 2009, on the day of her 70th birthday, which she calls the best in her life.

Letty summed up her life, dreaming that tomorrow would be no worse than today. But a month later, a routine examination revealed she had breast cancer.

It was necessary to survive the shock, reassure loved ones and make a decision about the treatment. But Letty's life stopped and froze in the waiting room of the clinic, at the doctor's offices, in a queue of the same poor fellows.

However, accustomed to finding meaning in everything, Letty was confused for a while. And I didn’t have to go far for a new meaning, it turned out to be enough to change the angle of view. And the reception of the oncology center turned from a torture chamber into a creative laboratory.

Disease - uncharted territory

You can’t imagine a better place for material, a writer can only dream of such a variety of characters, and everyone has plenty of time to talk. Already on the outskirts of the topic, Letty suddenly realized: “Disease is an uncharted territory!” And began to make a map of the area.

There were many questions requiring clarification. Why is it easy to accept help from some people, but you want to avoid communication with others? Is there a way for the patient to convey his desires to others without fear of appearing ungrateful and rude himself?

It turned out that people's reactions to diseases (including the same disease) are no less diverse than the diseases themselves. Different models of behavior of the patients themselves, their relatives and friends became the subject of study for Letty. In her book, she decided to “give equal time to negative and positive experiences.”

Top stupidity

Letty devoted a separate chapter to the mistakes that happen when communicating with the sick. We offer the most typical mistakes that people make in relation to their sick loved ones.

Kathleen underwent hip replacement surgery. When a friend who visited her in the hospital called the operation “minor surgery,” Kathleen replied offended: “Minor surgery is any operation that someone else has not undergone, but someone else.”

Marion was diagnosed with breast cancer eight years after her husband died on September 11 in New York. Upon learning of Marion's illness, her friend flippantly "blamed" the sick woman herself: "That's what bad karma means. Otherwise, why would you attract so many troubles to yourself?

"It's good that you're already married" - "comforted" a friend of Eisha, who had just undergone a mastectomy.

Jennette Avery, marathon runner and stroke survivor, often hears from her friends, “I can't believe this happened to you! You were into sports! As a result, Jennet began to hate past tense verbs: “Why say that? It just reminds me of who I used to be."

Patrick confessed to his brother that the metastases had already affected the lymph nodes. "What are lymph nodes?" the brother asked. Patrick couldn’t explain right off the bat, and his brother reproached him: “Why didn’t you study this issue properly?”

How not to deceive and not hurt a sick loved one: seven rules

But we do not always hurt our loved ones, because we ourselves are cruel. Often - simply because we do not know what to say. Letty offers seven rules of conduct that will help us show sincere concern without hurting a friend.

1. Believe it or not, but the most common remark that usually starts a conversation is the question “How are you?” - can upset a sick person.

The question "How are you?" insidious, it requires a person to instantly decide how frankly he should answer. Therefore, you should ask this question only when you are ready to hear the answer and not be afraid of the details.

What can replace this question? You can just say, "I'm glad to see you." Or instead of "How do you feel?" ask: “How do you feel?”, but only if you are ready to hear the answer.

2. Don't say to a person who has an incurable or chronic illness, "Get well!" because he won't get well. When communicating with such a patient, one must understand that the main problem will not disappear, just as friends should not disappear.

3. Each patient needs his own amount of attention, someone needs to be led by the hand from office to office, and it is enough for someone to call once a week. What is suitable for communicating with one patient may offend or offend another.

4. Avoid platitudes, empty consolations, such as "We are all in the same boat." “Yeah, only a few of them had a leak in this boat,” said a veteran who lost both legs in the war and then fell ill with cancer.

5. Try not to interrupt the patient when he talks about himself. After all, he shares not just information in such a way (which may seem insignificant to you), he communicates and interacts in such a way. It is important for him to be heard.

6. Do not interrupt the patient's story with remarks in the spirit: "My dog ​​also had a tumor removed." It's tactless and rude. It is wrong to compare different people, different situations.

7. Keep promises, or don't make them at all. Be there, listen, offer all possible help.

We don’t favor information about sorrows and illnesses, only those who are “locked in” look for it, but here’s the paradox: this information is sorely lacking. No wonder at the end of the book - a list of charitable foundations for different occasions.

In Moscow, Letty Kottin Pogrebin's book "Trial by Illness - How to Communicate, Maintain Relationships and Help a Loved One" can also be bought at Biblioglobus, where on November 22, on Saturday, its presentation will take place.

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Relationships with loved ones

A difficult diagnosis for many sounds like a sentence. And not all people are able to cope with cancer alone. For those around you, communication with cancer patients is always a big test. How to talk to a cancer patient correctly, how to communicate so as not to cause additional frustration, not to cause aggression and despair?

Many begin to respond with aggression to aggression: as a rule, nothing good comes of this, and relations only worsen. In order not to aggravate the situation of a cancer patient, it is important to understand how he feels.

How to support someone with cancer

To cheer up the patient, first of all explain that he is not a victim! This will help a person to maintain an active position in relation to life. At the beginning, when a person only found out about his illness, he is, as a rule, in a state of shock. Now is the time to “include” him in solving the problem, and not sit back and do nothing. Of course, it takes some time to get used to the idea of ​​cancer, but the sooner you start acting together, the better.

At the moment when the stage of anger and anger comes, the techniques for getting out of an emotional crisis are best of all. The easiest way is to write about your feelings on paper. Moreover, this can be advised both to a sick person and to someone who happened to be next to him in this difficult moment.

To do this, every day ask the person to write down everything that worries him, on just three pages from a notebook. If you don't have the strength to write, let him dictate. Let him tell the paper or the recorder everything he thinks about the situation, about his illness! This technique brings noticeable psychological relief and relieves severe emotional stress.

When the stage of faith in a miracle comes, it is important not to let the patient go down the wrong path. Of course, faith is important, but treatment should not be neglected in any case. During the stage of depression, people often withdraw into themselves, become isolated. Here, on the part of those around you, there should be a clear understanding of how important it is to be just around.

Help for adults with cancer

When an illness happens to someone very close, like a mother, it is very difficult to bear it. The main thing is not to blame yourself, and not to be angry with your mother. It's not your fault or hers that this happened. It is important to act in a timely manner, not to give up. Well, if fate decreed in such a way as to take a person out of this life, try to endure this loss steadfastly. Feel all the pain and bitterness of loss. The last days should not be overshadowed by squabbles and quarrels. It is important to create a favorable emotional background for the care of a cancer patient.

Support for a child with cancer

If a child is more cancerous, it is doubly difficult for parents and other adults close to him. It seems that the heart is breaking from the realization that the baby is suffering. The child is perceived as part of the parents, part of the mother and father, so many adults accept the oncology of the child as their own. Of course, you don't have to do this. First of all, mothers should not focus on their own misfortune, it is important to share responsibility with the father of the child.

As for the relationship with the child himself, it is important here to abandon hyper-custody. Yes, the child is sick, but if he feels well, there is no need to forbid him to do what he loves, to limit daily activities. When the disease is defeated, after a period of rehabilitation, it is better if the child returns to his daily activities and duties. For example, going to school, for many children, the ban on attending school means that something is wrong with him, that they are sick. It is also important to maintain interest and joy in life in a child.

Words of support for a sick person

What to say to a cancer patient, what words of encouragement should be so that he does not lose heart? In most cases, a person with cancer tries to run away from himself, to suppress his emotions. Let him talk, cry, it is very important to him!

• Let him know that you are there, you are not going anywhere and will be with him. Close and dear people are given in order to share not only joy, but also grief.
• Tell him directly that you need him, that everything he does is very important to you and, most importantly, valuable.
• Rethink together your life together and / or friendship, remember the best moments.
• Try to explain to him that the disease is just a twist of fate, albeit steep, but surmountable!
• Some patients begin to abuse alcohol, it is in your power to convey to them that alcohol is not a way out of the situation, not salvation, and, moreover, not a cure.

Films about cancer patients

Psychologists advise that in order to reduce the degree of despair in cancer patients, you can watch a film about cancer patients. I wish it had a good ending. So a person suffering from oncology will be able to get positive emotions and find strength to further fight the insidious disease.

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Unfortunately, life consists not only of joys and pleasant moments. It so happens that it brings us bitter, sad events, which often cause a state of shock when they happen unexpectedly. In this case, I'm talking about a sudden and severe illness of a loved one. When a loved one falls ill, the whole life changes. Habits are changing, the usual way of the family.

Of course, a great physical and psychological load falls on all households. But most of all suffers, of course, the sick person himself. And at this moment it is very important to find and say important and necessary words of support to a sick person. However, often we do not know what to say, how to behave, how to avoid uncomfortable situations and not worsen the experience of the patient and his relatives even more.

Most importantly, you need to understand that words of support, care and attention are very important. This does not depend on whether an adult or a child is sick. It doesn't matter if you're at home or in the hospital. You should always try to be as involved as possible.

What to say to the patient to cheer him up?

The most important thing that the patient needs is to feel that he remains for you the same family, loved ones, as before the illness. It is important for him to make it clear that the relationship has remained the same, that he has not become a heavy burden for you. Tell him that you love him and that you will take care of him until he is fully recovered.

To a person who is seriously ill, say words of love as often as possible, stay with him longer, talk, discuss news, consult, that is, behave as usual. Thus, you will show that the relationship has remained the same, that his opinion is still dear to you.

When you are caring for a sick person, give them words of encouragement and think of some simple entertainment or pleasurable activity. For example, you can watch a movie on TV together or read a book, look through a magazine.

If a child is sick, you can come up with an embroidery pattern together or assemble a picture from a mosaic. The main thing is to do everything together or with your live participation. It is very helpful to support a sick person. Read books, discuss what you read. Sometimes the words that the invented hero says are perceived by the sick child in relation to themselves. Therefore, try to pick up good books and fairy tales, where good always wins.

If not your relative or close friend is sick, but just a familiar person, do not talk to him in clichés. Frequent expressions such as "Please accept my words of support", "I'm sorry", "I sympathize" - will not bring much benefit. Therefore, find more sincere words and expressions that will really support morally.

For a loved one and a loved one, there is one single phrase that will calm him down and give him hope. Here it is: "Be calm, I will never leave you and will always be with you, no matter what happens." With these words, you make it clear to the person that he will not be left alone, he will know that you will always support him. Usually, after such words, a person calms down, becomes more cheerful and even begins to recover faster.

How else to alleviate the patient's condition

It is very important to create an atmosphere of comfort for a person. Especially if he is in hospital. Bring his favorite things, photographs, books, some items reminiscent of home to the ward from home. Put indoor flowers on the windowsill.

If the disease is not infectious, the patient will be supported by a friendly atmosphere. Therefore, invite guests - friends or colleagues. Organize friendly, warm communication with tea, cakes. This event is likely to please the sick. But, of course, you need to consider his character. If he does not like to communicate very much, think of something else. You need to understand that in each situation you need to find an individual solution.

Some Helpful Tips

Never make a secret of the fact that your loved one is sick. No need to hide it from relatives, friends. Be aware that they may take this as distrust on your part and be offended. In addition, by this you deprive them of the opportunity to help the patient, to show their warmth, their best qualities.

Therefore, directly, frankly, tell everything to people who are directly related to the sick person. They will appreciate your frankness. In addition, it will help the patient not to give up, but on an equal basis with everyone else to bear responsibility for their own health. This often plays an important role and contributes to the beginning of recovery.

Try to keep yourself in control, set yourself up positively. Of course, this does not mean that you need to smile and laugh all the time. Just be kind and considerate. Even a simple hug will make him feel better.

And one more thing: be tactful, do not concentrate only on your own person. When you talk to a person who is sick, depressed, you do not need to tell him a funny story about how you had a lot of fun yesterday at your mutual friend. How much did you drink and what did you do next. It is unlikely that he will be interested now.

Or, for example, if a person has problems in his personal life or an unfavorable financial situation. In this case, it is not at all necessary to tell him about your new passion or the purchase of a country house.
Remember that words of support, your genuine participation, presence next to you in difficult times, are very necessary for a sick person. They help him recover faster and begin to recover sooner.

Often a serious illness that requires long-term treatment (cancer, stroke, heart attack) violates the most important plans of a person and his relatives: it will no longer be possible to go on a planned vacation, repairs must be urgently postponed, there is no one to sit with a small child, because time, energy and the funds will now be spent on long-term treatment.

In this situation, the most important thing is to tell your loved one that his value to us is by no means in the material or practical benefits that he brings. The uniqueness of each person's personality is valuable until the last minute of his life, and even if a person struggles with the disease for several months, we know that he is with us, his soul is alive, and this is the most important thing for us.

If we are talking about a woman who is having a hard time with her unattractiveness during a period of illness, remind her that appearance is only a mask, and the main meaning of a relationship is in a person’s heart. Say that you see her still charming and interesting for you and are sure that she will come out of this test even better than she was, you just need to be patient.

In general, the question of treating illness as a test is very important. Many experts say that the disease can become a point of growth for a person. He thinks about the meaning of life, seeks to discard everything that was false, unnecessary, seeks to make peace with those whom he offended inadvertently. Thus, illness can become a time of important reflection and decisions in which a person needs to be supported.

Some patients, especially in the case of a cancer diagnosis, tend to become depressed and refuse treatment. Behind such statements, in fact, fear is hidden, and if you agree with the passive position “I won’t be cured anyway,” then you kind of inform the patient that you don’t believe in his recovery either. Meanwhile, we know hundreds of examples when it is faith in the best that helps people get back on their feet with the most unfavorable prognosis. Therefore, give the patient an example of faith, patience, emphasize that you yourself are ready to support him in every way in this, but he should not “give up”, you need to resist the disease.

We often forget that "the ways of the Lord are inscrutable." It is impossible to predict what will happen later, and those doctors who say: “You have so much to live” are wrong. No one knows this, and there are many such examples when a person was predicted to have 2-3 months of life, and he lives happily for years and years. Perhaps, fortunately, the disease will turn out to be only an episode. But if it acquires a protracted and even irreversible character, while a person is alive, this is still life, including the life of his soul.

You can't mourn a person during his lifetime, you can't force him to live as if at his own commemoration. As believers, we understand that earthly life is only a step towards eternal life, so we must be able to think in terms of the infinity of the life of the soul.

To make a serious condition easier to bear, try to occupy the patient with something that has always been interesting to him, what can captivate and entertain. Many patients admit that even the sight of a simple indoor plant on the windowsill, which blooms, leaf by leaf, captivates them and revives faith in life. Beautifully illustrated books, music, films - all this supports a person's resistance to darkness and despair. And of course, make sure that the sick person can observe church rituals, participate in the Church Sacraments, consult with the priest about what should be done for this.

Pray yourself for your loved one, think about his health, strengthen your own faith that everything will turn out for the better.

We are ready to lend a shoulder when a loved one loses his job or wallet. But with difficulty we find the right words and rarely understand how we can help if misfortune occurs. Let's understand how to support a person in grief.

To begin with, understand and accept one thing: even though you have known each other for a long time and you know a person as flaky, now this does not mean at all that his behavior will meet your expectations. “There are certain general stages of experiencing grief. You can fully focus on them, remembering, of course, that each of us still needs an individual approach, ”explains psychologist Marianna Volkova.

Psychologist at the Nina Rubshtein Gestalt Center

Practicing psychologist, specialist in family and individual psychology

How to support a person if he is in shock

Stage number 1: usually a person is in complete shock, confusion and simply cannot believe in the reality of what is happening.

What should I say. If you are really close friends, it is best for you to be there without relying on the phone, Skype or SMS. For some people, tactile contact is very important, the ability to see the interlocutor in front of you live. “At this time, conversations and attempts to express condolences are not needed,” Marianna Volkova is sure. - None. Therefore, if your friend asks you to be around and at the same time refuses to communicate, do not try to talk to him. Contrary to your expectations, it will not get easier for him. It is worth talking about what happened only when the loved one is ready for it. In the meantime, you can hug, sit next to me, hold your hand, stroke your head, bring tea with lemon. All conversations are strictly on business or on abstract topics.

What to do. The loss of a loved one, sudden terrible illnesses and other blows of fate require not only reflection, but also many worries. Don't think that giving this kind of help is easy. It requires a lot of emotional return and is very exhausting. How to support a person in such a situation? First, ask how you can be of help. A lot depends on what state your friend is in. You may have to take on organizational issues: call, find out, negotiate. Or give the unfortunate a sedative. Or wait with him in the doctor's waiting room. But, as a rule, it is enough to at least deal with everyday issues: put things in order, wash the dishes, cook food.

How to support a person if he is acutely worried

Stage number 2: accompanied by acute feelings, resentment, misunderstanding and even aggression.

What should I say. “Aggression is one of the stages of experiencing grief,” says psychologist Anna Shishkovskaya. – Even the mildest person has the right to be angry and feel resentment for the whole world, when there are such good reasons for it. Try to treat your friend's emotions with understanding, let him meet the feelings that arise in him. It is important that a person knows: you are there, you are not offended and you are not angry in return. (See also tips on coping with adversity.)

What to do. It is clear that it is difficult to communicate at this moment. But right now, a friend needs attention and support. Try to come more often, be in touch if he is left alone. You can invite him to visit for a while. It is important to clearly understand whether you are mentally ready for this.

Words of condolence

How to support a person if he is depressed

Stage number 3: at this time, the realization of what happened comes to the person. Expect depression and depression from a friend. But there is good news: he begins to understand that he needs to somehow move on.

What should I say. We are all different, so the best thing you can do is ask what exactly a loved one expects from you.

1. Some people need to talk about what happened. “There are people who, in a difficult situation, it is vital to speak out loud their emotions, fears and experiences. A friend does not need condolences, your task is to listen. You can cry or laugh with him, but it’s not worth giving advice and putting in your five cents in every possible way, ”advises Marianna Volkova.
2. Some people need a distraction to get over grief. You are required to talk on extraneous topics, to involve a person in solving some issues. Invent urgent matters that require full concentration of attention and constant employment. Do everything so that your friend has no time to think about what he is trying to escape from.
3. There are people who, in difficult life situations, prefer loneliness - it is easier for them to cope with their emotions. If a friend tells you that they don't want any contact yet, the worst thing you can do is try to get into his soul with the best of intentions. Simply put, forcibly "do good." Leave the person alone, but be sure to make it clear that you are there and ready to provide all possible assistance at any time.

What to do.

1. In the first case, help of a domestic nature is often required, especially if your loved one is not one of those who easily negotiates, communicates and can easily choose the best of several proposed options.
2. You have to help your friend step back a little from what happened. If you are connected by work issues, you can carry out distracting maneuvers in this direction. A good option is sports. The main thing is not to torture yourself and his grueling workouts, but choose what you like. You can go to the pool, to the court or to yoga together. The goal is to try to have fun.
3. In the third case, you only need what you are asked for. Don't insist on anything. Invite “to go out and unwind” (what if he agrees?), but always leave the choice to the person and do not be intrusive.

How to support a person when he has already experienced grief

Stage 4: This is the adaptation period. You could say rehab.

What should I say. It was at this time that a person re-establishes contacts, communication with others gradually takes on its usual form. Now a friend may need parties, travel, and other trappings of a mourning-free life.

What to do. “If your friend is quite ready to communicate, you don’t need to try to somehow “correctly” behave in his company. Do not try to forcefully cheer, shake and bring to life. At the same time, you can not avoid direct looks, sit with a sour face. The more habitually you adjust the atmosphere, the easier it will be for a person,” Marianna Volkova is sure.

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The tragedy experienced sometimes gives people a reason to manipulate others. This, of course, is not about the first, most difficult period. But you may be required to be constantly present for a long time. Your personal life, work, desires will not be taken into account. Let's say you invited a friend to stay with you for a while - a fairly common practice. But all the agreed terms have long passed, and the person continues to visit. You are silent, because it is impolite to talk about inconveniences, but spoiled relationships will be a natural result.

Equally important is the financial issue. It happens that time passes, everything that was needed is done, but the need for investment does not disappear. And you, by inertia, continue to give money, afraid to refuse. “I noticed that you are starting to sacrifice yourself and your interests, which means that there is a reason to talk and clarify the situation,” recalls Anna Shishkovskaya. - Otherwise, the accumulated resentment and indignation will one day provoke a serious conflict with mutual claims. It would be nice not to lead to a scandal, but to mark the boundaries in time.

Personal dramas are just one of those troubles in which friends are known. And your behavior during this period will certainly affect your relationship in one way or another. Therefore, it is worth rushing to help only if you sincerely want it.

Sometimes supporting a person in difficult times means saving his life. Both close and unfamiliar people can find themselves in a difficult situation. Absolutely anyone can provide help and support - moral, physical or material. To do this, you need to know which phrases and actions are the most significant. Timely help and sincere words will help a person return to their previous way of life and survive what happened.

In a person's life, there are many situations in which psychological, moral and even physical help is required. In this case, the presence of people is necessary - relatives, friends, acquaintances or just strangers. The degree of intimacy and the duration of acquaintance does not matter.

To support a person, it is not necessary to have a special education, a sincere desire to help and a sense of tact are enough. After all, correctly chosen and sincere words can change a person’s attitude to the current situation.

A person who finds himself in trouble should know that he is understood. It is very important during this period to have a like-minded person nearby. If the situation is related to the loss of a beloved man or job, remembering a personal example will be the most effective medicine. It is recommended to tell how hard it was during this period and how successfully it all ended in the end. But do not focus on your heroism and quick problem solving. You just need to say that everyone has such problems, and a friend will definitely cope with them too.

You need to convince the person that you need to wait a bit, and it will become much easier. The realization that everything will be fine will create an atmosphere of security and peace.

In a difficult moment, it is natural for a person to blame himself for all the troubles. He tries to shift responsibility for actions to which he has nothing to do. In this case, the task of close people is to dissuade a person from this. Try to refute all possible positive outcomes of the situation. If there is still a person’s fault in what happened, you need to try to make amends for it. It is recommended to find words that will help convince a person to ask for forgiveness, which is necessary for his own good.

A direct question will be very effective, how can a person be helped in this situation. You can offer your own solutions without waiting for his appeal. Sincere interest and taking action will make you feel supported.

In no case should you use the phrases: "forget", "do not worry", "do not cry", "it's even better." Attempts to “bring to life” with the help of screaming, accusations and sudden movements will not lead to anything. Such “help” can lead to a complication of the situation.

Representatives of the stronger sex try to restrain their emotions, so they most often close in on themselves. From this experience, they become even stronger, and a mental wound brings not only psychological experiences, but also physical pain. The girl at this moment should be as attentive and caring as possible, but in no case intrusive.

If a husband has problems at work, which are accompanied by material losses, it is necessary to say the most important words for a man: “Money cannot affect our relationship in any way. I will always be there." This should be said as calmly as possible, with a smile and tenderness. Excessive emotionality or nervousness will confirm the man's fears that the relationship is purely mercantile.

If the problems are related to relationships in the work team or relatives, an assurance that the girl is on the side of the guy would be appropriate here. He does not need to reproach himself and feel guilty. The beloved woman fully and completely shares his point of view and will do everything necessary for the successful resolution of the situation. It does not hurt to tell a man that he is strong and will definitely cope with problems. Self-esteem will not allow him not to justify the hopes placed on him. SMS with words of love or poems during the working day will cheer him up. An example of such a message:

To help the woman you love, you should start with affection and tenderness, the essence of the problem does not matter. First of all, you need to hug her, kiss and calm her down. The most necessary at this moment will be the words: “Calm down, I am near and I love you. Trust me". Then you can continue to hug, drink tea and wait for complete calm. Only after that it is recommended to calmly sort out the situation, be sure to take the side of the beloved woman.

Assistance, both moral and physical, should be provided. You may have to talk with the offenders, sort things out, take some action. In a word - to shift part of the work on yourself. Feeling a strong male shoulder and real help, any girl will calm down, no matter how difficult the situation. A small gift, a trip to a restaurant or a theater will quickly bring her back to her old life. Phone calls during the day, SMS in the form of words of love and support in prose or poetry will be very appropriate. An example of such a message:

Support for a sick person can be provided in the form of words and actions. But this is not always possible, since people can be at a distance from each other.

The most valuable way to help a suffering person will be words of support. To calm the patient, you can:

• Speak words of love. They must be repeated sincerely, with genuine participation. By voicing the phrase: “I love you very much and will always be there,” you can reassure a person, create an atmosphere of security.
• To compliment. Sick people are very vulnerable, so they listen to every word and gesture of others. Remarks about the smallest changes in appearance for the better will sound like compliments. Even if these changes are not present, it is recommended to say about their presence. A sick person is not able to perceive reality objectively. With oncology, this will give the suffering person hope for a miracle; with a serious non-fatal illness, it will speed up recovery.
• Praise. Praise a sick person should be for every little thing, even for a spoonful or a sip of water eaten. A positive attitude will contribute to a speedy recovery or alleviation of the patient's condition.
• Keep at a distance. A phone call or Skype conversation would be appropriate. It is very important for the patient to hear a native voice, to see a familiar face. Further actions will be constant SMS, written poems, sent pictures and all those things that the patient likes. But the most significant will be the phrase: "I'm on my way."
• Discuss abstract topics. It is worth moving away from boring topics and giving preference to light and fun ones. We must try to remember an interesting story, an anecdote, tell funny news. You can try to discuss neutral topics: a read book, a movie, a recipe for a dish - everything that will interest the patient at least a little.

Some phrases can harm a sick person. Do not talk about the following topics:

• Disease. You should not discuss the symptoms, look for their confirmation, give similar examples from the lives of people you know. The exception can only be happy cases of successful healing.
• Friends reaction. It is not at all necessary for a sick person to know what kind of reaction his illness caused in others. If this touched someone, let him visit him personally (do not notify about this in advance, as the visit may break and the patient will be disappointed). A reasonable solution would be to simply say hello and tell the news about an acquaintance.
• Personal impression. It is categorically not worth telling what reaction the disease caused in the helping person or nearby relatives. Trying to demonstrate your compassion, you can upset the patient even more, because he became the culprit of the experience and continues to torment his loved ones with his position.
• Distance. If the terrible news about the illness of a loved one caught up far from him, the best solution would be to urgently hit the road. This must be informed. The solution of issues, negotiations with superiors regarding the departure and other problems should remain secret. The patient should not be aware of matters that may be more important than him. If it is not possible to come, then you can refer to the lack of tickets, non-flying weather and other factors. Here, a lie will be to the rescue, since waiting can prolong the patient's life.
• A pity. If the disease is fatal, the pity of loved ones will constantly remind of this, causing a bad mood and deterioration in well-being. If the disease is not so serious, then there is a risk of its complications, because the patient will think that something is not being told to him. Sometimes the patient may have a reluctance to recover, as constant pity is addictive and even simulation.

Correct actions in relation to the patient contribute to recovery or can alleviate the course of the disease:

• Care. Some patients need constant care because they cannot do anything on their own. But even if a person does not need enhanced care, attention and care will only benefit him. It would be appropriate to simply offer to lie down and make tea. A good help would be cleaning the apartment or cooking dinner. The main thing is to correctly assess the situation and help only if necessary. Do not forcibly remove the patient from his usual duties, persistently sending him to rest. Sometimes it’s enough just to be there and let them take care of themselves. This will allow a sick person to temporarily forget about his illness and feel needed.
• Abstraction. It is useful to distract the patient from medical procedures and talk about pills. If a person has the ability to move around, it is necessary to persuade him to take a walk in the fresh air. You can visit some events, exhibitions, museums, creative evenings, etc. The changed appearance should not be a hindrance, the main task will be to convince the patient that now positive emotions are much more important than the perception of others.

The irreparable loss of loved ones causes severe suffering, which a person cannot cope with without outside help. In order to provide the necessary support in a timely manner, it is recommended to familiarize yourself with the main phases of the emotional state in this situation:

• Shock. It can last from several minutes to several weeks. The impossibility of perceiving reality is accompanied by a lack of control over emotions. Attacks can be accompanied by a violent manifestation of grief or complete inactivity with stone calmness and detachment. The person does not eat anything, does not sleep, does not talk and hardly moves. At this point, he needs psychological help. A reasonable decision would be to leave him alone, not to impose his care, not to try to force feed, water, start a conversation with him. You just need to be there, hug, take by the hand. It is important to carefully monitor the reaction. Do not start conversations on the topic: “if we had known earlier, we had time, etc.”. It is already impossible to return anything, so you should not provoke feelings of guilt. No need to talk about the deceased in the present tense, remember his torment. It is not recommended to make plans for the future: "everything is ahead, you will still have time, you will still find it, life goes on ...". It will be much better to help in organizing the funeral, cleaning, cooking.
• Experience. This period ends after two months. At this time, a person is a little slow, poorly oriented, almost unable to concentrate, every extra word or gesture can burst into tears. The feeling of a lump in the throat and sad memories do not let you sleep, there is no appetite. Memories of the departed cause a feeling of guilt, idealization of the image of the deceased, or aggression towards him. During this period, you can support a person with kind words about the deceased. Such behavior will confirm a positive attitude towards the departed person and will become the basis for a common experience about his death. Do not give examples of other people who have experienced even greater grief. This will be perceived as tactless and disrespectful. Walks, simple activities, a simple release of emotions in the form of joint tears will be very effective. If a person wants to be alone, do not disturb him. In this case, you need to constantly be in touch, call or write messages.
• Awareness. This phase tends to end a year after the loss. A person may still suffer, but he is already aware of the irreversibility of the situation. It gradually enters the usual mode, it becomes possible to concentrate on working moments or everyday problems. Attacks of unbearable mental pain visit less and less. During this period, he has almost returned to normal life, but the bitterness of loss is still present. Therefore, it is necessary to unobtrusively introduce him to new activities and recreation. This should be done as tactfully as possible. You should control your words and be sympathetic to possible deviations from his usual behavior.
• Recovery. A person fully recovers one and a half years after the loss. The sharp pain is replaced by a quiet sadness. Memories are not always accompanied by tears, it becomes possible to control emotions. A person tries to take care of loved ones, now living people, but he still needs the help of a true friend.

If the described phases are delayed in time or do not come to change, it is necessary to urgently seek help from specialists. This condition is dangerous and fraught with the occurrence of serious diseases.

Sincere help has its own nuances. Help is needed, but within reasonable limits:

• You need to help only if there is a sincere desire.
• In the case of severe grief, you need to objectively assess your strengths. If they are not enough, you should involve friends or specialists.
• Reserve the right to personal space, do not become a hostage to the situation.
• Do not allow yourself to be manipulated at the slightest refusal to fulfill the request.
• Do not sacrifice your interests, work, family happiness for the sake of comforting a friend.
• When moral or material assistance is too long, it is necessary to tactfully talk with the person, explain that everything possible has already been done to overcome the difficult situation.

Timely assistance, a feeling of sincere compassion will help to return a person to his former life.

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Kind words of support to a sick person in prose, quotes uttered by you will only have a positive effect on a loved one.

The necessary attitude of good treatment is faith in the best. If the prognosis of the development of the disease is doubtful, focus on encouraging signs, life-affirming words, help to improve the patient's condition. The strength of the spirit makes a person invincible. Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky

“You will recover and everything will be fine, the main thing is not to be nervous and do not cry. Stress and depression greatly reduce immunity, which cannot be allowed now, the body is generally capable of self-healing, the main thing is not to put a spoke in its wheels. Despite the difficulties and circumstances, just believe in yourself - in your strength! I understand that it's easy to say, but difficult to do, But try. We are all with you, and together we will make every effort to improve the situation with your health.”

“Now you have a difficult period, you are tense, tired, all this affects your health. Rest more and gain strength, follow all the doctor's orders and think less about the bad. You are the best and kindest with us, everything will pass soon.

“Don’t be too nervous, hold on! All diseases are from nerves. Your health will certainly recover. Remember that I always mentally support you, and look forward to improving your health condition.

“Our dear little man! They say that if you strive for something with all your heart, then it will undoubtedly come true. You will definitely be healed! Now medicine is progressing very much. We are your family, together with the doctors, will try to do everything possible to restore your health.”

“Believe in your recovery, because good mood and optimism can play an important role. Everything will be fine! It simply cannot be otherwise!”

“The main thing is to think about the good, believe in recovery, do not succumb to the disease, fight! It's hard but you have to keep going! We love you and believe that together we will definitely overcome the disease.”

“For such a bright and positive person like you, everything will definitely be fine! Try to follow all the advice of doctors, think only about the good, dear, because thoughts materialize!

“Try not to succumb to sadness and despair, anger at the disease, because only a positive mood and a strong spirit will drive away your illness. If you need my help, just let me know and I'll be right there."

“Let it be bad now, but then everything will be fine. Everything will change and the pain will recede. God will give you the strength to endure everything, do not lose hope, hold on. You need to survive, wait, and then everything will work out. We believe in you and will pray for your recovery."

Quotes and sayings about illness and recovery: As soon as a person falls ill, he needs to look in his heart for whom to forgive. We must sincerely forgive everyone without exception, especially ourselves. Let us not know how to forgive, but we must strongly want it. Our every thought literally creates our future. (quotes from Louise Hay)

My dear ones, all your illnesses are from your unkindness: from warmth, from delicious food, from peace. Do not be afraid of the cold, it mobilizes, as it is now fashionable to say, the body's defenses. Cold throws a hormone of health into the body. Let everyone decide what is more important to him - business or small joys. Everything must be a victory. Man must live in victory; if you don’t get it, you’re worthless on a market day ... Why get treated when you can and should not let the disease into your body!

Porfiry Korneevich Ivanov

Don't be sad! Recipes for Happiness and a Cure for Sadness Grieve will not help matters, and if trouble has befallen you, the best thing you can do is try to adapt to the circumstances. I knew a man who had his left arm amputated right from the shoulder due to an illness. He did not fall into despair and did not lament over this, but showed patience and decided for himself that he needed to live on despite this test. He married, he had children, he drove a car with one hand and did his job diligently and diligently, without complaining about anything. He lived as if the Almighty and created him with one hand ... Aid al-Karni.

“Avoid those who try to undermine your faith in yourself. This trait is characteristic of "small" people. A great person, on the contrary, inspires you with the feeling that you too can become great.” Mark Twain

Illness is a cross, but maybe also a support. It would be ideal to take strength from her and reject weaknesses. Let it become a refuge that gives strength at the right time. And if you have to pay with suffering and renunciation, we will pay. Camyu A.

The hope of recovery is half recovery. Voltaire

Just as it is impossible to treat the eye without thinking about the head, or treat the head without thinking about the whole organism, so it is impossible to treat the body without treating the soul. Socrates

If the egg is broken by force from outside, life ceases. If the egg is broken by force from within, life begins. All great things always start from within.

Life sometimes beats us, it is, of course, very unpleasant, but the day will come when you will understand that you are not a victim, but a fighter, that you will cope with all your troubles. Brooke Davis

The one who conquered himself is truly strong. Victory over yourself is a victory in which there are no losers, because the power that commanded you against your own will becomes a conquered power.

Mix your sorrows with the sorrows of the whole world, and your sorrows will be less. Yakov Abramovich Kozlovsky

Your determination not to give up will allow you not to break even when everything collapses.

Everything is in our hands, so they can not be omitted. Coco Chanel

When running water meets an obstacle on its way, it stops, increases its volume and strength, and then overflows through the obstacle. Follow the example of water: stop and increase your strength until the obstacle no longer interferes with your path. I Ching

Nothing is impossible, anything you can imagine is possible!

No desire is given to a person apart from the power that allows it to be fulfilled. Richard Bach

You can't change the situation, change your attitude towards it.

It doesn't matter if you're walking slowly... the main thing is don't stop.

Theme of the section: words of approval of support for a sick person in prose, quotes, statements for men and women. And lastly, remember that hormones of happiness (endorphins) are formed in the brain when a person rejoices, laughs. Thus, they strengthen the immune system, improve the properties and composition of the blood, change the endocrine status of the body, relieve stress, and help recovery!

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1. Get well soon, may illnesses and illnesses go away from you far and forever, may strength and vigor return to you, fill your soul with hope and optimism, may the energy of the sun, the power of the earth, and the support of loved ones help you recover, return to the mainstream of life events and again with pleasure to create, dream and love!
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2. Get well soon, let the disease become only a short-term test that you can quickly cope with. I wish you to gain courage, follow the recommendations of doctors, tune in to the fastest healing. Think positive, then all ailments will recede!
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3. Illnesses can never be a barrier to the feelings of loved ones, right? Therefore, I continue to think and worry about you, about what you feel on the spiritual and physical plane, in your emotional world. Dear little man, I want to wish you an active recovery, because you should again enjoy the world around you and a successful life. We will definitely make every effort to successfully eliminate the disease that can knock you down and make you bedridden. Very soon you will go outside again and you will be able to smile at the sun, think: “I am healthy, finally!”. Do not waste a single day to successfully fight your illness, but act. My support and care, I hope, will be useful. I believe that in the very near future we will go on an active walk, enjoying life to the fullest. Get well soon, please, dear.

4. Any disease can pass, and your illness will be eliminated in the shortest possible time. Try to follow all the advice of experienced doctors who know how and how to treat an existing disease. Follow the regime for your quick recovery, give preference to nutritious foods. Do you need to do something around the house, cook healthy meals? You just tell me and I will definitely come running. Now I am sending you impulses of goodness and happiness, I wish you good health and strong immunity. Let health return and allow you to look at the world differently. Life is given so that you find bright colors in it every day and use the chances to fulfill your dreams. Close people and good friends should always be together, because I'm with you now. Get well, please, because you will make yourself and me happy by the fulfillment of this wish!

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5. My sun, get better, such a kind and good little man does not need to get sick. I am very worried and sincerely hope that you will recover soon and will again be in excellent shape, fully equipped and fully prepared to achieve great goals and conquer peaks.

6. My dear little man, let the disease leave you, get well soon. Stop getting sick already, let's already conquer this world and enjoy life, strive for dreams and embody your ideas. Sunny, get well and no more pain.

7. The soul does not find a place, my bunny got sick. My beloved little man, get well soon, sun, let's get well and boldly into battle, go ahead - conquer this world and fly towards bright happiness!
8 Illness is always untimely, She will not be invited to visit ... I want to wish you a speedy recovery! Let the strength return quickly In your weakened body, And quickly appear beautiful, So that nothing hurts in the future!

9. The most important thing for a person in life is his health. After all, it’s not for nothing that the phrase “A healthy mind in a healthy body” has been known for centuries! This is really true, because if you are healthy, then you are in a great mood and any business is arguing. Therefore, with all my heart I wish you the very best health!

10. Beloved, I wish you to go to recovery in step with immunity. But first, let's start preparing the fight with raspberry jam, honey and linden tea.

Wish for recovery in prose

11. I wish you to spin in a dynamic waltz as soon as possible with correction, relief and full recovery!

12. I wish that every cell of your body works for recovery and general improvement, and this will not be out of place with the sweet sunny orange juice that I left for you on the nightstand!

13. Let every link of your immunity be strong, strong, heat-resistant ... Which is not afraid of any viruses, ailments and temperature changes! Get well soon my dear!

14. I will rise with the sun, I will pass the forest-roads, the dews of health in order to collect in my palm. And you, having washed yourself with happiness, you will forget about your worries, you can outright beat the malaise! Let the disease shamefully run to its lair, shut the doors behind it and do not open it again. And feel free to call for help, about laughter and mood, look, do not forget!

15. I wish you to become healthy as soon as possible, forget all medicines and bitter potions, have fun again and play football in the morning, completely forgetting that there is a temperature.
I want the body to overcome all the pain that has accumulated as soon as possible, so that everything around is fine, and so that the disease does not recur.

Get well wishes pictures

How to express your feelings in simple and clear words in order to convey to the patient the full strength of your desire to help? How to formulate wishes for recovery in order to help a person at the moment of trial? Probably best in order

deal with your thoughts, then the words will come.

Well wishes for loved ones

Everything is simple here. When contact is established, feelings are much easier to express. It is only necessary to take into account the nuances of the situation, so that instead of facilitating a person, do not pour salt on the wound. Start with how valuable the person is to you. Say a few words of sympathy, but better empathy. Now tell me how happy you will be when the illness is gone.

Dear mommy! Beloved, dearest! It's so wonderful to see your smile, to know that you are cheerful and healthy. Your illnesses are a temporary phenomenon, but I so want to take away all your pain from you in order to hear your joyful voice again! Get well soon! You are the strongest and bravest, you could always save us, your children, from the worst nightmares! And we will definitely help you!

Beloved son! My sun! Get well soon, and you and I will go to fabulous distances, looking for magical adventures! There is no such illness that could stop such a strong man like you for a long time!

Recovery wishes to the employee (boss)

When you need to say a few words to a person who is not in a close circle of communication, some precautions should be taken. If you are not entirely aware of his affairs, then it is better to speak (write) general words. Keep in mind that a careless phrase can greatly hurt a person, worsening his general condition, and therefore slow down the correction.

Dear... The team strongly feels your absence from work. No one but you can solve complex issues that constantly bombard our organization so easily and simply. We miss your wise advice, sparkling jokes. I really want to quickly see you in full health, shake your courageous hand! We wish you good health, and may this disease, which you will undoubtedly overcome, be the last. Let a series of happy years replace the current ill health!

Dear ... All sends you ardent greetings and wishes for a speedy recovery. We are with you in spirit, supporting you in this trial. We sincerely worry about you, we look forward to your speedy recovery! We can't do the job without your original ideas! Please accept our heartfelt wishes for a speedy victory over the disease! May life please you with health and happiness!

Wishes for recovery after surgery

Dear ... You have been given a serious test. We empathize with you and hope that the strength of your spirit will overcome unfavorable circumstances. You will definitely get better! We wish you not to lose optimism! Let adversity vanish like morning mist, and the bright sun of happiness will light up on your horizon again!

Wishing a speedy recovery to your loved one

You need to speak sincerely to the closest person, and He already knows how many experiences you have. Just say you love, it's always appropriate. The energy of this word is sometimes better than any medicine. For example: “My love! When you feel bad, not a single star lights up in the sky. All of them, just like the Sun, yearn with me! Get well as soon as possible. Don't leave the planet without light! I sincerely ask your health to return to your master!”